The separation of church and state, which is actually paraphrased, is not only in our constitution...it is part of the very first ammendmant. Number one. Numero uno. If you didn't know, we actually have Thomas Jefferson to thank for putting pen to paper on that subject, even though it seems some successors have forgotten it's there.
Decisions and laws are moved along everyday founded soley upon, what any one with a modicum of common sense could say are very much, religious reasons. There is a lot of grey there. Arguments can easily be made and lines can seem very blurry at times. What's right? What's wrong? And, who gets to make the call?
In times like those, just a thought, it may be a good idea that the solution/law/whatever you want to call it, is just as blurry as the problem itself.
Hmmm...confusing? I'll explain.
I am continuously astounded at the vehement objections to gay marriage. I'm not gay...but I really don't care if those who are get married, either. The arguments for legally allowing gay marriage, even setting "love" aside, are very valid. Think of it this way - I don't care if it's your very best friend from childhood, or your love of ten years, if they were in an accident and you were the one in the hospital with them...would you not demand to be treated like family? To be able to see the injured person? Hold their hand? Calm there fears? Would you not fight for it?
I would.
I was not raised in the "traditional" home, in my time at least. My parents divorced when I was 7 (almost eight) and I remember being the only kid in class whose family was like that. I remember being told that my parents were "sinners." It was a big deal. But now? Wow, this country LOVES divorce. And the church side seems pretty ok with it, even us catholics with our magic annulments.
So, how does it make any sense for a country to make it easier to tear a family apart than to build one? Why is it better and more acceptable -- even rewarded -- to just give it a shot. If it doesn't work, no big deal, get a divorce.
Even better, you don't like your family? Get rid of them too. Oh yeah. Emancipation. Kids divorce your parents. Parents divorce your kids. Whatever you want to do. Whatever you need.
Unless your gay.
Whoa! Hold the boat on that one. Cause we can't, in good conscience, allow you to get married (and divorced, if you so choose) if you're gay. Well. That just wouldn't make any sense at all. Oh yeah, and I'm pretty sure God agrees with me.
What is that shit? And, why aren't we bringing any alternatives to the table.
How about this?
1. State -- If we can legally deconstruct a family in just about any way, shape, or form...we should be able to legally construct one as well. Choose your family. Make your family. Build your family.
What is wrong with that? This is a princeple that benefits us all. Only-children, widows, spinsters...no "real" family, but many good friends. Why can I not name someone my brother? My sister? I could adopt and name someone my child. And if so, why not my partner?
Legal, done.
2. Church -- Figure it out for yourselves. Each church makes its own decision on whether or not they will hold same-sex weddings.
Church, done.
Now. What is so difficult about that? Really.
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