Number Seven: I Pray I Play the Fool

William Shakespeare wrote that "To be wise and love exceeds mans might," in the tragedy Troilus and Cressida.


In order to be wise, you must have experience. If one were to be wise in love, by experience, I would have to say that I am more wise than I ever wished. I'll share a story with you (names have been omitted to protect the guilty.):

There was a time that I fell head over heels for a most wonderful man. We were inseparable, two partners in crime, best friends and lovers. Everything you could possibly ask for, I received from this man. And, I gave it back 1,000 fold.

I literally walked on air, due to my love. I was the happiest I had ever been. We talked about getting married. We talked about what we would name our children. We discussed futures filled with special moments ending with front porch lemonade talks when we grew older.

I had never loved that way before and I have not loved that way since. I don't know that I even want to.

Needless to say that it ended. How it ended was horrifying, however. The love of my life (as I knew it at the time) got my very best friend (at the time) pregnant. And they got married.

There were many other kick in the pants that happened before and after, but that's not the point of the story.

The point, I guess, is that I have loved and lost. And would probably still go back for more. Love can do some crazy things to us -- scary things -- fabulous things. And, God bless me, even after all the tears and disappointments, I hope one day to fall again.

I don't believe in trying to hunt it down. I believe that beautiful elusive love will find me. I don't want to meet someone on Match.com. I don't want to side up to the bar in hopes that some guy talks to me. I will not be speed dating or putting my SWF wishlist in the classifieds. But, just like so many other crazy things I believe, I truly believe that love will come my way when it's my time.

Maybe if people stopped chasing love so hard, there wouldn't be so many divorces. Maybe if we just stood still and tried to become the best we can be, love would run into us. You can't make a puzzle piece fit where you want it to, just because you want it to. It just doesn't work that way. If I have to wait until I'm 80 for the right thing to come along (my buddy, my partner in crime, my lover) I will wait, because i refuse to settle for less.

Perhaps others could take the same advice. Wait for it. Don't settle. It will come when it's supposed to. Enjoy where you are right now and believe that good things are still yet to come.

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